Imagine you come to an interview and even though you are highly qualified and motivated, in the end you don’t get the job.
Despite your best efforts to make a good impression, chances are you’ve made one of the four most common mistakes: lack of perspective, narcissism, condescension, and humble bragging.
Making a good impression in high-stakes situations – that’s when it’s really necessary. To avoid the four most common mistakes when trying to make a positive impression, let’s take a look at them one after another to understand why they fail.
- Lack of perspective.
First, failure to take perspective can cause the interviewees to misjudge the interviewer’s reaction. For example, the success of an interview is common and there is certainly nothing wrong with that. But interviewees may underestimate the importance of the way they talk about their success.
Research shows that people tend to emphasize their own talents and abilities for their success, believing that when they do, the interviewer will perceive them as competent. In this case, the respondent made a mistake because they did not put themselves in the interviewer’s shoes. It is very important to be kind and knowledgeable.
If we accept the interviewer’s perspective, it becomes clear that interviewers care not only about hiring competent employees, but also good employees.
In order for them to appear likeable and competent, interviewees must pursue different strategies. Instead of talking about their talents and skills, focus on mentioning the hard work and effort that led to success. Then the interviewer will feel that the interviewee is not only competent, but also appropriate and attractive, which increases the chances of getting the job.
When we hear the word “narcissist” we think of people who are very arrogant and self-controlled. But in reality, each of us can have a little bit of that quality within us.
Narcissism can manifest itself in a feeling of superiority over the interviewer, which leads to arrogance and repulsive behavior. Therefore, it is important to suppress the little narcissist in all of us when we are at an interview.
Remember, interviewers are looking for a confident employee, not someone who believes they are superior to others, including the interviewer.
Interviewees can reduce their chances of being interviewed through arrogance. This often happens when you compare yourself to others in a positive way. For example, an interviewee might say that he was the best sales manager in his previous job or better at something than his former co-workers. Even if this statement is true and competent, it will likely reduce your chances of getting a job. Because if interview partners are explicitly compared to other people, the interviewer may feel personally attacked for fear that the interviewee will also be compared to the interviewer. Such fear will weaken the interviewer’s desire to hire the interviewee.
- Humble Brag.
This is when you brag about yourself in a way that is subtly disguised as gripping or self-destructing. In response to the classic question “What are your weaknesses?”, a respondent could answer, “In my current job, I have a problem because I am very busy
because everyone always comes to me for advice. “Or: ‘I’m too much of a perfectionist.’ But this strategy has the opposite effect. Interviewers can usually spot this tactic so this strategy is highly unlikely.
In short, as an interviewee, you need to remember that it is important not only to impress the interviewer, but also to connect with them.
a) See yourself through the interviewer’s eyes and remember that he or she is looking for a good employee,
b) avoid looking great.
c) avoid comparisons with others, and
d) be honest about your strengths and your weaknesses as a competent person, motivated and prospective employees like you.