Heartbreak is one of the worst things that can happen to someone, especially when your partner is your sun and moon and the only (or most important) person who changed your world. It’s even worse when you’ve been together for a long time and want to get married, then suddenly you become a complete stranger to the person you really love.
People deal with heartbreak and grief differently: some bounce against walls until their ankles bleed and scream until their lungs threaten to tear. The others just sits still and stare into space, tears streaming down their faces. Regardless of how people deal with grief, this is true – unless they are hurting someone else.
There is another way to deal with grief and sadness: talk to someone. In fact, the therapist will advise you to never bottle up your emotions and let everything out to someone you trust. In today’s world of social media, many people express their grief to People-zzz online.
It’s not new to talk about your relationship, the absence of it, or your heartbreak on social media. We all “awwww” and “God-when” when celebrities share their love stories. We are all happy with them when they share happy moments. But we all condemn their actions when they take to social media to drag themselves like a small generation, when their love story goes south. There’s always, “Oh, you shouldn’t have said that, you should have kept this to yourself, no one should know what’s going on in your relationship.” We know the how’s and how-nots of how people should react to a heartbreak – especially since we’re not the ones wearing their shoes.
Recently, a young man broke up with his girlfriend on a social network. Fam, I’m not kidding. According to him, he “caught” her cheating on someone else and announced their breakup on social media without telling her that he was no longer interested in the relationship. It didn’t stop there, he revealed very sensitive information about her, posted her photo and tagged it. If you read the topic – which he did around 6am and deleted it immediately – you would find that this guy was extremely hurt. He might not have been able to sleep through the night.
Many people have come out to say that his actions were wrong because 1) his thread made his ex-girlfriend open to bullying and verbal abuse, especially after he posted her face and tagged it, 2) he divulged a lot of sensitive information and he was wrong, revealing what she told him confidently, and 3) No one really cares, people just want to hear the latest gossip, laugh at it, share hot photos and move on.
But another said, “Listen, you can’t tell a bereaved person how to react.” We need to realize that social media is a part of people’s lives and because we advise the public to always submit their complaints, there is nothing wrong with sharing on social media and because he was deceived, according to the subject, he has the right to shout and tag her. It emphasizes that you can’t tell people how to deal with their pain, and if what he did made him feel better, so be it.
Also, many people don’t have offline friends or close family members they can easily chat with. Outside of social media, some people are lonely and alone. It’s no wonder that social media has become a place to help and entertain so many people. There are people who share their stories on social media and get help or find love, so you can’t blame people for sharing their complaints online, can you?
But where do you draw the line, especially if it’s not just about you? How do you decide what to share and what not to share when you’re hurting? Why are you even attracted to invisible boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed when you’re in so much pain? Remember that when you go out to talk about your relationship, you’re also talking – for the most part – about the other party. Are you dealing with the pain you’re causing this person by “coming out” – especially if he or she hurt you first? Or do you throw all caution to the wind? Do you wash your linens in public if it makes you feel better, or do you choose to suck it up and suffer in silence?
Social media is a big part of our lives so it’s not wrong to share, right? But when it comes to your relationship or marriage, how much information is too much? Let’s think about it.